If you’ve been around kinksters, swingers, poly people or play parties for any amount of time, you’ve seen them… The Sexual Sophisticates.

These people who have a certain kind of magic to them. They have skills and techniques, but there’s something more going on there.

It seems like they can conjure a scene out of anything. Their negotiations seem like seductions. When they play, it truly seems like they are reading their partners’ minds. They use roles like dominant, submissive, switch to guide them, but navigate freely between them.

Whether they’re monogamous or play with others, they have a freedom and confidence that makes them captivating. They are fluent in a variety of erotic dimensions and are always learning new sexual languages. They have a magical ability to follow what thrills them and their playmates.

These are the Sexual Sophisticates.

The thing is, it isn’t magic. They aren’t mind-reading. And their confidence comes from knowing how to set both themselves and their partners up to win, no matter what happens in a given scene.

Sexual Sophisticates have learned specific, nuanced, teachable skills that make hot play happen.

Skills that with a little knowledge and some practice, you can start using too.

You’re probably already halfway there. You’ve taken some classes and bought some toys. You’ve learned techniques and acquired tools. You’ve dipped your toe in the water and like what you’ve seen.

You’re on your way to the sex you’ve always wanted.

Other classes will teach you how to throw a flogger, tie someone up, or give a great blowjob. But this one will teach you how to get a scene started. How to make negotiation seamless and really hot. How to set up your environment so that steamy sex can happen more easily.

Other classes will tell you to listen, but this one will teach you exactly what to listen for to create a scene that leaves you both panting for more. How to discover clues to desires you and your partner doesn’t even know you had. How to know what your partner really wants.

You’ll learn how to get back on track when a scene goes sideways. You’ll gain confidence that you are, in fact, doing it right. You’ll walk out knowing how to initiate creative, satisfying play, and you’ll get specific, tailored-to-you, concrete steps you can take to set up your bedroom and home to make fun, hot sex happen more often.

You’ll learn how to use your fantasies and desires to foster more connection and intimacy between you and your partner. And how to harness your creative energy and hunger for power, sensation and surrender.

These are skills for everyone interested in being a connoisseur of great sex.

…regardless of the roles you like, or whether you play publicly or privately. Whether you’ve been partnered for 20 years, are recently seeing someone special, or spend your days swiping right on Tinder, you’ll learn skills in this intensive that will make your sex life richer, deeper and way, way more fun.

Here’s just some of what we’ll cover:

  • What stops you from initiating play and how to turn that to your advantage
  • Stealth negotiation and how to generate kinky scenes from everyday conversation
  • Transitioning from “regular life” to hot play
  • Role-playing made simple (even if that’s not usually your thing!)
  • Prompts to help you create fun, sexy scenes that you’ll want to do again and again
  • Simple changes you can make in your home that will help you have more hot sex, more often
  • What to listen for so that you understand what your partner REALLY wants from your play
  • Lots of fun, low-stakes practice with creating scene proposals and negotiation
  • How to give feedback when something isn’t working (without killing the mood)
  • Reading non-verbal communication (and using it to both of your advantage)
  • How to salvage a scene that goes sideways
  • And much more…

Join renowned sexual communication and kink educators Marcia Baczynski and Midori for a weekend that will change your sex life forever, dedicated to helping you create the kind of mind-bending, earth-shaking play you’ve always dreamed of.


The next intensive will be in San Francisco in Winter 2018. Sign up below to be notified about this and future intensives.